Frederick S. Cafiera
September 19, 1944 - October 15, 2016

Fred Cafiera, 72, of Calabash, passed away Saturday, October 15, 2016, at his home. Fred is survived and loved by his wife, Carol Cafiera of the home, step children Dawn Abrams of Massachusetts, Paul R. Ahern of New Hampshire, Dan Maupin-Ahern of California, one brother Michael Burke of Maryland, and six grandchildren. Fred was a long time friend of Bill W and will be greatly missed by fellow members, as well as family. Fred will be remembered at Sunday Night Meditation Meeting, Little River SC group on October 23, 2016 at 6:30pm. Arrangements are in the care of Coastal Cremations, Carolina Shores, NC.


  • Carol Cafiera Posted October 18, 2016 11:02 am

    My love, my best friend, my happiness. I’m so grateful to have had him in my life. I can only aspire to be as loving, patient and tolerant as he was. I’ll cry for his loss but I’ll smile for the memories he left me, his Carol.

  • Pete Solet Posted October 18, 2016 1:00 pm

    I’ve known and loved Fred for more than 30 years. I am truly blessed that he entered my life and that he has remained in my heart. Red Skelton, Red Skelton, Fred, and God bless.


  • MaryLou Kelley Posted October 20, 2016 8:28 am

    Fred was a beautiful man, now he is a beautiful soul. We will miss him very much. We shall always remember the happy and fun times we had together.
    Rest in Peace my friend and brother in law.
    Until then…..

    Mary and George

  • Dawn Ahern-Abrams Posted October 20, 2016 7:28 pm

    I’m going to miss our conversations on the porch. Fred was my power of example. his words of wisdom and encouragement gave me hope. I loved how he picked up the phone and called to just to see how I was. I find myself heartbroken at the idea that he won’t be there anymore, at the end of the phone or on the porch, or at his usual spot at the meeting. Fred will be missed. I knew when my mom introduced me to him the first time that he was a good guy. It has been an honor and a privilege to have him in my life. I’m so grateful for him being an amazing grandfather to my son. Fred will be missed.

  • Dan Maupin-Ahern Posted October 20, 2016 9:57 pm

    Fred was a dad to me in the true sense of the word. He met my mom when I was 16. Back then, at that age, I probably would not have let anyone into my life. Fred was a big exception. He was so kind, there was no way I could protest. I am so glad I did not push him away. Fred had such a peculiar, yet simple way of viewing life. Like keeping two wallets, one with money and the other without. If someone held him up, he would be prepared and offer the empty wallet.
    He kept little lists everywhere. Some of the things on the lists were little reminders to take life one day at a time. Some things were things that he did not want to forget to do, in many cases those things were things for others in his life. He would write my mother’s name just to make himself smile later in the day.
    Fred would always be available to sit and talk about troubles or whatever was on my mind. He never judged or criticized me. Just support me with simple solutions .
    I wish I could have spent more time with Fred.
    I am going to miss you him.

  • Dawn Ahern-Abrams Posted October 21, 2016 1:14 am

    Thanks for sharing that. Something I didn’t know, but made me smile.

  • Michael Burke Posted October 22, 2016 3:34 pm

    I remember when Buddy use to read me comic books, and play the bongo drums, and when he taught mom, dad, and me to play whist.

    I miss you Bud.

  • Aunt Mary Posted October 25, 2016 3:47 pm

    That is beautiful, Dan. I just know Fred would have appreciated those words.

  • Aunt Mary Posted October 25, 2016 3:49 pm

    Awww, so nice Dawn. For sure he will be missed. LY

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