Norma Jean Kotlas
May 23, 1929 - February 24, 2023

Norma Jean (Defibaugh) Kotlas lived 93+ years and was predeceased by her husband Andy a decade ago.

She is survived by her daughter Deb (Jim) and son Koty (Maureen), 6 grandchildren and almost 13 great grandchildren, as well as several nieces and nephews.

She lived a full life in many locations over those years including Wheeling WV, Bridgeport OH, Commack NY, Brooksville FL and Bolivia NC. She worked as a secretary, a dental assistant in her younger years and as a nanny in her 70’s. She loved her life, stayed active in her church and volunteered at Brunswick Novant Medical Center in her 80’s. She road her three-wheel bicycle through Winding River Plantation at 84, proud of her Miss Raspberry license plate. The last 6 1/2 years she enjoyed life at Arbor Landing in Ocean Isle NC. Having Covid took away her independence but didn’t rob her of joy. She was nicknamed double trouble there, and her name reflects how she interacted with and entertained her many friends, the AL staff and the team from  both Amedysis and Lower Cape Fear Hospice.

She will be honored and buried next to Andy at Arlington National Cemetery later this year.

Coastal Cremations 6 Jacksonville St., Wilmington NC 28403



  • Linda Anderson Posted March 22, 2023 4:34 pm

    Our condolences to you and your family Deb. May time heal all your sorrows. Linda and Jim.

  • Karin Desloge Posted March 23, 2023 8:38 am

    We so enjoyed our time with Norma… she was a comfort to my mom and so many others… she had quite the laughter… so happy we got to know her and celebrate life as she brought so much 💜❤️💐

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