Scottie Kindermann Maddox
December 29, 2020












Landed on Earth


Kansas City, Missouri

Flew to Heaven


Wilmington, NC


Death is a rest between 2 notes in an unfinished symphony. It is a page we turn to a new chapter in the Book of Life. It is not the end; it is a new beginning. It is not the fall of night; it is another dawn.


To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world. – unknown


P.S. – Happiness is an inside job.



Arrangements are in the care of Coastal Cremations, 6 Jacksonville Street, Wilmington, NC 28403


  • Pauline Louise G Posted January 1, 2021 12:48 am

    I loved you soo ❤️ meeting you was the most wonderful day of my life in North Carolina
    I will never forget you

    My condolences Jim you were blessed to have been with such an amazing woman! She will always be by your side
    ❤️ Thank you for calling me and sharing such sad news to end this crazy year with. Peace to you and your family Jim

  • Tina Vucci Posted January 1, 2021 1:32 am

    Fly high, Scottie. I love you and I miss you tremendously. You were such a great gift in my life even though we didn’t know one another for too long, I feel like I have known you forever. You were such a beautiful soul on this earth and now a gorgeous Angel! Thank you for your gift of friendship. I miss you, my friend, til we meet again. Saying prayers for Jim and the rest of your family. I love you, OM your OD.~ xoxox

  • Jan Horton Posted January 2, 2021 7:05 pm

    Heartfelt condolences to Jim and family. Having known Scottie for 60+years, I will miss all her calls, cards, presents… the flamingo mementos are everywhere. The “Scottie tree” filled with annual White House ornaments is reminiscent of many trips roaming around the DC areas. She was a friend to many, but like a sister to me. Thank you Scottie for your continued friendship.

  • Dorice Nelson Posted January 2, 2021 7:05 pm

    Scottie and Darcy Elizabeth were the first friends my pup and I made upon arriving in NC in 2014. I consider it one of the luckiest days of my life. Scottie brought warmth and fun to a lonely life and dragged me “kicking and screaming” with laughter to many delightful days. We shared the good and the bad with each other and remained good friends up to the very end. I loved her and will miss her light-hearted ways. My thoughts now go out to Jim, who was her boon companion. Don’t be sad, Jim. She right next to you, backing you up, as always……………………….Let’s just love her forever. Tep

  • Shirley Jones Posted January 2, 2021 9:00 pm

    Scottie was the first friend that I met when I moved into Westport on October 4, 2014. She was a very good friend to me and did a lot for me. She was a lovely person. I loved her and will definitely miss her. There will never be another Scottie. She was definitely a people’s person and will be greatly missed. Jim, please accept my condolences and if there is anything I can do for you please don’t hesitate to ask. Thanks for everything that Scottie
    and you have done for me.

  • Brenda and Butch Bottoms Posted January 2, 2021 10:46 pm

    You and Scottie will always be in my heart .. I loved her dearly. She was a lovely, lively person no one will forget if you ever met her. Keep in touch.

  • Kara D. Posted January 2, 2021 11:00 pm

    Auntie – When I landed on your doorstep 30 years ago, I could never have imagined your enduring friendship all these years. Not a birthday, or holiday or even just a Wednesday went by without a call or a note. I am forever grateful for the gift of you. Fly high Auntie. I love you.

  • Ginny Baxter Posted January 3, 2021 1:37 am

    It was an honor to call Scottie my friend since early 1970s. She will be missed terribly. Her spirit and kindness will be forever in my heart. She was one of a kind in my eyes. Love you Scottie and Jim.

  • Cary and Carrie Schultz Posted January 3, 2021 1:38 am

    One of the most welcoming faces of Unity when we first showed up with our young family… Scottie always made us feel like we were at home. We moved away with another military transfer and Scottie and Jim always remembered us at the holidays!!! Cards and phone calls were her gift! We will miss her! God bless!!!

  • Frank Lucash Posted January 3, 2021 4:15 pm

    I first met Scottie in 1965 through mutual friends. She persisted in introducing Sandy to me and in a year and a half we got married. I cannot thank her enough for doing that and for contacting us throughout the years to see how we were doing. I was lucky to have known her.

  • Joyce Lehan Posted January 3, 2021 10:14 pm

    Jim, My heart was saddened when a mutual friend, Ron Reynolds, informed me of Scottie’s passing. We worked with Scottie at BCCOA in Bethesda, MD.
    Her humor and kindness was a Blessing to all. May Our Heavenly Father continue to Bless you and your family. Sincerely, Joyce.

  • Mary C Aiken Posted January 4, 2021 12:40 am

    I met Scottie in 2010 when I moved across the street from her and Jim. I’ve met a lot of people but Scottie was the kindest, most loving, helpful and compassionate person I know. Alway smiling and had a great sense of humor that many people don’t. I honor a life well lived and will always cherish our beautiful friendship because I am so blessed to have have known her. Jim be encouraged, I pray God surround you with his grace, peace and love always!

  • Aisha Posted January 4, 2021 5:29 pm

    Scottie was the first person I met in Wilmington and she was so kind and amazing and made me feel so welcome. I am truly going to miss her.

  • Landon Barker Posted January 4, 2021 8:45 pm

    What a pleasure to have known Ms. Scottie – a one of kind woman. She always kept a watchful and loving eye on Shannon and I since the day we met her in the neighborhood. She loved and cherished our family as it grew and I loved her for that! Always a birthday card always something beautiful and fun on even the envelope! Never skipped a beat! I valued and trusted her opinion in life and business. She always gave it to me straight and I welcomed it. I will miss seeing her in person but I know she will always be my guardian angel. Jim, we are truly sorry and thank you xoxo

  • Payton Andrews Posted January 7, 2021 3:05 am

    Scottie was my dear friend, who adopted me about five years ago. She became my “Other Mother.” She also adopted many others. Scottie had so much love to share. She loved me and kept me close, especially when I was going through hard times. Scottie supported me in countless ways. Her kindness and friendliness were unmatched. She truly never met a stranger. I learned so much from her. I will cherish our time together always. You are loved and missed beyond measure, OM. Jim, I’m here for you. I will be in touch often. You are still my “Other Father.” It won’t be the same without Scottie’s physical presence but I believe she is with us in spirit. Sending much love and many prayers to you, Jim and your families.

  • Dana Curtin Posted January 7, 2021 5:35 pm

    Scottie was truly a one-of-a-kind woman who made each person feel like a special friend. I met Scottie in 2016 at a Unity women’s dinner where she then hooked me up with dear Beth for my several month stay. She stayed in close touch ever since, and I have been blessed by the incredible light and spirit of the dynamo that is Scottie. She worked hard for her positive self, seeing the best in things even as her body was leaving this dimension. I love you, Scottie. Thank you for being a guardian angel to so many of us. We miss you.

  • Jonathan O’Donnell Posted January 8, 2021 4:11 am

    We will miss you Ms. Maddox

  • Lynn Yates Posted January 9, 2021 5:15 pm

    I will miss Scottie more than words can say. But as she would no doubt remind me, it is not the end. She was determined to live every moment of life to its fullest – and her example has made my own life so much fuller. She never met a stranger, she cared about others more than herself, and she lived out her core principles every day. I was so lucky to have her as a friend and as part of my chosen family. Fly on, Scottie, and save a spot for me. Much love and my condolences to Jim and her other loved ones.

  • Caroline Rigby Posted January 9, 2021 6:11 pm

    In reading through the heartfelt notes of the people Aunt Scottie touched throughout her life, there’s a common theme: “she was my first friend”, “my other mother”, “my chosen family”. That all sounds about right. I remember as a child being utterly mortified as we walked down the beach or city streets because it seemed that Scottie had to stop and speak to *every single person we passed* walking away from almost every conversation with a new friend. I honestly don’t know how she or Jim ever got anything done. As I’ve grown, I’ve come to realize that was her greatest gift: the boundless and eternal spring of love and kindness she had to share with the world.

    My mother‘s best friend since early adulthood, and therefore MY best friend since birth, there is not a moment of my life that I haven’t basked in the light of her and Jim’s love. As my life has expanded, the love she had for me spilled over effortlessly to encompass every new person I brought into her orbit. Her letters to me over the years were always filled with note about and newspaper clippings of my friends, some of which she met only once, and their accomplishments. To put it simply, to meet Scottie was to be loved by her.

    My heart broke when I saw the hand-addressed envelope in my mailbox last week because I knew what it was: the last time I spoke to Scottie she had called to apologize for missing my boyfriend’s birthday, she said had been busy hand-addressing every obituary and at that point had gotten to 250. I don’t think I even *know* 250 people. It’s still difficult to comprehend that it’s the last time I’ll see her loopy cursive in my mailbox. I will miss her so much.

    All of my love to Uncle Jim, the Yin to Scottie’s Yang. I’ll just have to squeeze you twice as hard each year at the beach and take comfort in the fact that I know she’ll always be here with us in the little voice that urges me always to show kindness to strangers, never take things to seriously, and never hesitate to let the people in my life know how much I love them.

  • Beth Posted January 20, 2021 1:47 pm

    Scotty was an amazing connector for us all and brought fun to all she met I will miss her!

  • Carol Jenkins Posted January 31, 2021 10:40 pm

    I will never be able to forget Scottie! Her touch is all over my house and each object brings up a memory of some crazy excursion. Love you forever Scottie! Prayers to you Jim!

  • Michele Mendes Posted February 14, 2021 1:53 pm

    Scottie was one of the first people I met when I moved here. I wouldn’t know most of the people I’ve met if it weren’t for her. Her passing has left a void in this community that will be hard to fill.

  • Ed and Jeanne Posted March 15, 2021 8:58 pm

    Thank you, Scottie. We are so appreciative of your loving friendship. May your next chapter be as loving to you as you have been to us. Thank you! Thank you! We miss you and again thank you. Love and light.?

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